#286: Not Rushing and Manifesting
Focusing on emotions I want to feel, I'll change my life for the better.
I’m choosing not to rush.
For months, I’ve noticed that I wake up in a rush.
My mind, immediately, is busy.
With all the things I have to do.
All the opportunities in front of me.
All the ideas I have.
Trains of thought come running at me from all different directions as anxiously switch platforms hoping to catch the next one.
“I need to shower, I need to workout, I need to go for a walk around the block, I need to make a healthy breakfast. I need to start working ASAP(!)”
“I could do this. I could do that. I need to do this. I need to do that. When I talk to him I’ll say this. I never should have done this. When that happened I could have said this”
The need to get to work fast creates this rush, this adrenaline. Like a ticking time bomb on count down. I must “start my day” at work. I must produce, lest I get left behind.
The earlier I start work. The more money I’ll make. The more successful I’ll be.
If I plan conversation in my head. If I scheme in my mind. I’ll be more likely to win at whatever do. So I must rush to start my day. My inhales are short and sharp, I’m not sure if I exhale.
But what am I rushing for?
When the day begins, I’m in a rush to get stuff done. I’m making a to-do-list. I’m ticking off tasks. I’m going from one meeting to the next. I’m running 5 minutes behind. I’m driving just a little over the speed limit to make time up.
I’m rushing and I don’t want to be.
I’m in a state of lack. I’m running off the belief that by controlling what I put in, I can control what I get out. My mind is a calculator. My life is a meat grinder. I’m churning out sausages.
I believe that by rushing to work, by busying myself through my day that I’ll get to whatever my end goal is. Money, success, fame.
But, I’ve been getting it wrong.
Because really, what do I want?
Money = security, safety, possibility, generosity.
Success = power, abundance, freedom.
Fame = connection, fun.
I’m not chasing money, I’m chasing the feeling that comes with it. Security. Contentment.
I’m not chasing success. I’m chasing that feeling I’ve had before where I feel powerful, like anything is possible.
I’m not chasing fame. I’m looking for more connection, more chances to share my thoughts. I want the fun that comes with all that.
So I’m rushing around in the morning to work harder to get to the end quicker.
And it’s not working.
Or, even if it is. It doesn’t feel so good. Because I’m not present. I’m not hugging Sarah in the morning because I’m thinking about what I can make today to get me closer to where I want to go.
I’m not hearing the sounds of the birds because I’m planning what I’ll say in that conversation I might have in two weeks.
I’m there, but I’m not there because I’m rushing. I’m thinking. I’m in my head working it all out.
And I’ve been getting it wrong. In fact, I’ve been living upside down.
Input-output feels great. It feels safe and secure. If I can figure it all out, I’ll get to the answer and then i’ll be safe. I want to be in the known universe.
Yet actually, everything I want. I can have now.
I can feel secure now.
I can feel possibility now.
I can feel powerful now.
I can feel connected now.
I don’t need to wait to feel these emotions, I don’t need to rush towards them. I can slow down into them, now.
And now the irony comes. By not rushing. By slowing down. By feeling contentment now. By feeling secure now. By being connected now. I’m inviting in more possibility into my life.
I’m receptive. I’m present. I’m here. I’m not there.
And this is where it get’s weird. This is where it get’s mystical.
By practicing these feelings now, by slowing down. By noticing myself rushing and catching myself. Slowing myself down and saying “it’s all ok, you have enough - you don’t need to rush”
By doing this, I’m going to get what I want faster than if I was rushing.
I don’t know how, because I can’t plan for it. When I’m rushing I’m following a plan, input/output.
Yet by slowing down, feeling harmonious. Hugging Sarah in the morning, listening to the birds, meditating, walking slow. I’m humming a new energy into the world, a vibrational frequency that’s going to bounce something new back to me.
And, I’ll have my eyes open to see it, my ears tuned in to hear it.
What I’m describing isn’t manifestation.
It isn’t writing down your goals every day.
It isn’t dreaming about becoming a multi-millionaire.
It isn’t planning.
It’s feeling. It’s presence.
It’s reflecting on what emotional state you want to be in. What emotional state do you actually desire? Usually something like love, peace, contentment. And being in that state now. Right now. Today.
That’s why I’m giving up rushing. Because I don’t want to be in a rushed state of existence. I want to be in an expansive one, at peace, relaxed and secure. When I rush - I’m not in that state even though I’m trying to rush towards something new.
Be the state you desire now.
Evoke the feeling now.
Bring more of that into your day-to-day.
And the future you desire will reach you in unexpected ways.
For me this currently practically means
Meditating every day and practicing feeling calm and contented, full of peace
Long hugs with Sarah every day where I feel full of love and secure
Noticing when I am rushing and physically slowing myself down.
My belief is that by focusing on these practices today I’ll invite something new into my life that responds to my frequency of peace, love, calm and security.
Sent with calm.
James x
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